Sunday, December 8, 2013

What I learned about my relationship with Jesus:

I was reading Jefferson Bethke’s Jesus > Religion. His aim is to bring you closer to Jesus. What this book did for me, was something entirely different.  Here’s what I learned about my relationship with Jesus:

1)      I don't know Jesus.    Not all aspects of him. I only know parts of him. I’ve only concentrated on parts of him. First it was The Strict God..then it was The Loving Daddy.  Somehow, I know this isn’t where my relationship ends.

2)      Apparently it’s a game. While reading this book- 10 pages into it or so, Arya (my pup) was being ornery bringing me his toy wanting me to play fetch, but didn’t want to let go. We’d end up playing tug of war, after which I’d get frustrated and stop. I realized this is what I did with my heart and God. I want him to take it and renew it, yet I refused to let go of it. I wanted to play this stupid game, much like Arya, not realizing if I just let go, there’d be SO much more fun to be had. But instead of getting frustrated, God is a gentleman and so he lets go and waits for me to invite/bait him once more to fix my heart (only to not let go again.)

3)      I don’t love Jesus . What is it to love Jesus? So while I was in church last Sunday, we were being challenged to love one another and to love God. Being a good Christian, I was fervently praying and telling Papa that I love love love him and I want to be good and I will love him even more. I promised him that “For 33 years, you lived and walked and breathed on planet Earth. I am 33. I am done living life for me. I want to live the rest of my life for you.” This was quickly shut down by Papa. Now, my relationship with Papa so far has been one of Daddy/babychild: Loving, cuddling, smiling, frolicking, full of amazing grace and abundant in unconditional love. So, naturally I was taken aback in shock. “What? Why?” Papa replied “You don’t love me. To love me, you must accept me. You must know me. When you love me, temptation is nothing – not because of rules or laws—but because you love me. This is how you are wired. I know because I designed you. But most of all, to love me, you must love ... yourself. Because you are my DNA. You are my child. You are my creation. How can you love me if you can’t even love what I have created?” We both knew he had nailed it. I didn’t love me yet.  Hence the self sabotaging behavior of putting myself in places of temptation- and then giving in. I said “I will work on that Papa. I will love myself and others more.” “ Oh, you love others just fine. I need you to work on loving yourself.” He was going to make sure the message was heard. So in a way, I am still giving up the old S. I lived for 33 years like S would. Most of it, I wish I could take back. But now, I live for Papa. And the season I am in, is learning to love S.  (This is gonna take years of training.)

4)      I wouldn't do much for Him. What would you do for Jesus? Give up worldly materials? Give up that porn addiction? What about judgments against others? Greed? Gluttony? Would you  die for Jesus?    I realized it was the “right thing” for a good Christian to say “Oh yes, I would give it up!” and I did that too. Heck I can’t deny it because I wrote about it in my journal to Papa. It’s right there in black and white. But my actions prove differently.  Bethke talks about being a Christian in America versus Middle East. Saying you love Jesus is very different. If militants barged into my house and had a gun shoved to the side of my cheek and asked.. would I say “I LOVE JESUS CHRIST!” Would I be able to look my executioner straight in the face and feel at peace? Would I panic? Would I try to hide? Or would I become Peter and totally deny Jesus three times before the rooster crows ? It makes you think- even if you can’t admit it aloud- but if you really sat and thought about it and were honest with yourself and Papa (Well, he already knows the answer.. it is more about being honest with yourself)- Would I die for Jesus? So… do you love Jesus? What, exactly are you willing to give up for Jesus? It made me sit and think- “Apparently not very much because I can’t even say no to temptation.” Once I said that to myself in shame and felt about this little, I heard “Good, now that you’re transparent, lets work from here.”  *Pause* Papa still loves me even though I admitted “Yeah, you took a whipping, insults and injuries and beating and slashing and had your side pierced while you laid your life down on the Cross to ransom me… buuuuuttt I think  I’ll give into that food addiction in a few days once all of this has passed.” I know I didn’t quite say it like that, but God knows and I know that I am a sinner and while my heart is positioned towards God AND I WANT TO DO RIGHT, I falter and stumble and I’m totally not gracious in doing so. But He, is. His grace lifts me up, dusts me off and he  happily walks to the cross and dies,  yet again, for my salvation.

5)      I think the “bad things” are his vengeance for me stumbling.  It is natural, no? We, well- most of us- are programmed with emotional blackmail. I’ve even done it. We say “if you love me.. you will….” Or “If you don’t do this… *insert bad thing* will happen to you.” It’s the worldly way of living. So naturally when something bad or even “not positive” happened, I automatically thought “Oh, I had a bad day at probably happened because God wanted to teach me a lesson about *insert naughty thing done here*”  Now, I know that’s not true of God, but after 33 years of learning one thing- it’s a bit hard to unlearn that. Or at least the chances of the thought creeping into your mind is much higher than to say “Nu uh!NO!!! WRONG WRONG WRONG WRONG!!!  Jesus already took that away on the Cross. He already suffered the punishment we were supposed to."  So why is it so hard to accept it? I had a shift in perspective (AHA! Moments tend to come very often when I hang with Papa these days) Tough times aren’t a chance to see if God loves us—but a chance to see if we love God despite the tough times. We are already loved by God.  It is done He said. Your “karma” has already been avenged. “It is finished” He said. Our job now is just to love. And being that others’ “karma” also has been spoken for, our job is also to forgive.

6)       I insult God on a daily basis. On page 49, Bethke asks “What would it look like if we treated our spouses or friends the way we treat God?” Meaning, what if you told your spouse “I told you l love you on Sunday… so now for the rest of the week, I can be promiscuous and run the streets. I mean, I already told you I love you so I’m good until next Sunday.” We know it wouldn’t work out well for us. Papa then stopped me in my tracks. “Before you think about how you treat ME... I need you to realize, that when you love me, you have to by default love my creation. You admit you’re my DNA, you are my creation and hence you are a part of Me. So I ask you: In extension, how do you treat my creation? What if you treated your family and friends the way you treat yourself? How about if you treated Arya the way you treat yourself?” OUCH. If you know me, my puppy is my baby. I will go without with absolutely no issues, if it means it will bring my Arya a minute of comfort. But myself… between the self sabotaging behavior, self destructive thought processes and self loathing mindset, If I treated anyone the way I treated myself- they would think I’m scum of earth.  Not that I go around whipping myself physically, nor am I a martyr by any means. But I am known to not care for myself in that in intimate relationships I don’t necessarily feel the need to put myself first very often. “The sin, here,” He says “ is you destroying, insulting and ridiculing my creation.” OUCH AGAIN.

7)      I don’t know that doing for others is good But Loving Jesus is great. It is so easy to get caught up in being a good Christian. You know- go to bible study, volunteer, be nice, don’t swear, don’t drink, love one another. But the essence of it all is lost in “doing” when the heart has to transform first.  I am so so SO amazingly blessed to have a career that allows for tons of free time. So eventually I wanted to volunteer I wanted to do good, I wanted to be that good little Christian that earns her heaven brownie points-- when first, I need to Love Jesus.  Because once you know His heart.. doing for others comes out of a place of thanksgiving. It comes out of a place of joy. Not obligation.

8)      I’m off the hook and Jesus is on the hook. And sometimes I’m okay with that. I mean, He willingly chose to go on the Cross for me- so I should be fine with it, no? No! (That song “should’ve been me” comes to mind) On page 138 Bethke writes “He doesn’t just let you off the hook; he put Jesus on the hook for you.” I had to put my book down, close my eyes and take a second before I let that sink in. The heaviness of it- the weight of it finally comes down on me. When you see your flesh desires as directly linked to Him as His suffering; and it has been etched in your heart that as His love for you—knowing what you’ve done and will do—  He still chooses to go to the Cross for you-- When you see your wrong doings as that crown of thorns or that lashing and you realize that you love Him so immensely that you want to do everything in your power to not cause any more harm—you will be able to say no to the world easily and move on from that temptation. It won’t be easy, but it will be done.   It won’t be easy, but it will be done.

9)      I desire gifts over The Giver, benefits over  the essence.  This was one of the hardest things for me to accept. It was hard to admit. But it’s the truth. I can hide but God already knows my heart, so I might as well come out and say it. So as my previous blog posts have suggested, my hearts latest desire was to get married.  That didn’t go over so well. I had idols, I wanted, I desired and I loved and I loved hard. When it all came crumbling down, I didn’t know how to cope. I still to this day, have moments when I don’t know how to. My orphan spirit reared it’s ugly head and I started comparing. I looked at others who were married and asked God “Why not me? Why did you bless them with this and not me?” I started to strive- if I just make friends with people that have happy marriages, they would know other happy people and hook me up. If I don’t give into desires of the flesh and give into the spirit, God will get me closer to my future husband. If I am good then God will…  If I..If I..If I. I soooo wanted to be married that I lost sight of The Giver.  The gifts of marriage are sacred. But The Giver is truth-The Giver is love-The Giver is life abundant. Part of me wanted to be married for the benefits of marriage rather than the essence of marriage. At one point I wondered if it even mattered WHOM I  got married to… (Thankfully, the answer to that was a resounding YES!)

10)   Jesus is just a guest in my house. I live like Jesus comes to visit me. With good intentions, I invite Jesus to come invade my house, my body and soul every day when I pray, worship, journal and listen to sermons. I get that he is a gentleman and he will not come unless invited… but Papa said He never left. He just took a step back and in turn invited me and waited for me to take a step in. And that’s just it- He’s not a guest! He is my creator. He is ever present. He loves me so much that he never leaves my side. So..why would I treat him like a guest?! In fact, as I was having this epiphany, Jesus tells me I am in a season of transition from daughter to bride. As the previous point says- it was my hearts desire to be married and scripture says to delight in him and you will receive your hearts desire! J So, how do you live with your husband? Does your husband come to visit and then leave after a couple hours? No. He comes home to stay. He doesn’t need to be invited, he knows that’s home. I still am a sinner, I still stumble and he still comes home. He desires me so much more than I’ve ever desired anyone else. When my last relationship didn’t work out, for weeks I would run to the window every time I heard a car door slam hoping it was my ex. I waited for what seemed like forever. Now, in my season of transition, I realize that Jesus waits for me in the window every day. And there are days that I choose to turn my back and walk away and sin. And when I come back I am broken, disheveled and a little dead inside. And like Hosea, Jesus picks me up from the slave market, brings me home and cleanses me. I am His Gomer and He is my faithful Hosea.



In conclusion, as a Jesus lover, Christ follower… I have to set high standards…real high standards; for myself, that is.


Somehow, I knew- this isn’t where my relationship ends. ;-)

Monday, October 28, 2013

Single and not waiting

So I just read this article by Rachel Selinger from Converge magazine and LOVED it!! I'd simply post the link, but my neurotic self has convinced my normal self that the article may one day be taken down, never to be accessible ever again. So I'll copy and paste (and post a link at the bottom.)

"I’m 23, I just graduated from university, and I’m single.

Many of my friends are married, and a few are starting to have children. And I feel as if I just graduated from high school again. You could say my life is in transition. And it’s true; I am in the middle of shifting myself from university to the career world. But I’ve started to wonder about whether it’s right to refer to my singleness as an in-between stage.

What exactly am I in-between again?

“It’s the first day of the rest of my life.” I recently I heard someone on TV say this about her wedding day, and it really bothered me. While I don’t want to discount the gift of marriage, I must say I’m a bit confused and frustrated with this sentiment. I’ve heard the cliché before, but I suddenly felt the weight of it. As if it equates marriage as the start of life, or at least the good part.

Don’t misunderstand my frustration; I think there is a beautiful element of starting a new family with your spouse. I’m all for godly marriage. But what I’m afraid of is viewing life through the lens of marriage as the goal. For waiting to get married before life starts.

I’m afraid, because I’m afraid it has happened to me. I’ve been living like I’m waiting for someone to get here. And it isn’t Jesus.

I’ve wasted my time, my energy, and my emotions on this concept that singleness is just a waiting room for a relationship. I’m tired of this view that my life begins when I wake up next to my husband, because I’m pretty sure my life began 23 years ago when my mom gave birth. And this mentality has robbed my joy.

As much as I’d like to place all the blame on Christian culture, the perpetual “Have you met anyone yet?” question the world asks me, and the reality that my Facebook feed looks more like a Pinterest wedding board these days, I am convicted of my own failures.

I’ve been living like God owes me something. Like he hasn’t held up his end of the deal. He has given me the desire for relationship and marriage, and he just hasn’t followed through.
I’ve been living under the impression that I deserve a relationship.

I’d be lying if I said Christian culture does much to inhibit this mentality. There seems to be a deep understanding and appreciation for the gift of marriage, but not so much for the gift of singleness (if it’s treated like a gift at all). Rather, singleness is something to be cured. Like I’ve got a disease, and introducing me to your single friend might perhaps cure us both. Singleness is the lump of coal, the gift that is never on your Christmas list.

There are at least a handful or us standing around, wondering what happened. (After all, I have been pretty nice this year.)

But it’s never been about being entitled, or even about being nice. I have to stop thinking that I’m doing something wrong here.

Well actually I am, but it isn’t about fixing something that will magically make a boyfriend appear. It is about changing the direction of my heart.
 “I’d rather have the right God than the wrong man.” –- Christen Rapske
People talk all the time about pursuing people or things for the wrong reasons, but maybe we pursue God for the wrong reasons. Maybe subconsciously I’ve been treating God like he’s a vending machine. And my pursuit of him has really been a pursuit of someone else.

When did Christ cease to be enough?

And when did I stop finding my identity, self-worth, and fulfillment in Him, only to place my life on hold for someone I’ve never even met?

Each day is a gift, and I’m not waiting for it to get here. It is present in every moment, and it begins anew daily.  Man-less or not, I want to wake up every morning and be excited because I get to spend my day with the God who created the universe.

And I want to do that for the rest of my life"

Link to the original article

Friday, October 25, 2013

Journey Journal

Stepping into "single-dom" isn't easy.  I can't speak for all women, but I go through stages, some last longer than the others. Sometimes I go back and forth between the stages, and sometimes I can be in different stages at the same time. What is interesting is that whenever I go through these stages, it is totally unconscious and I am only aware of it after being in that stage for a while. I am a hermit by nature (and zodiac sign- cancer..woot woot!) and so most people don't know what goes on under the shell. The shell isn't necessarily a tough one; sometimes it's just a smiling face- but unless I want you to'll have no idea where I'm at. So it's easier to sway from one stage to another without anyone knowing/ keeping tabs ..or being held accountable. It's not that I'd feel judged- my friends and family are very accepting and supportive. It's just that I want to take my time with it. I don't want to feel rushed, because eventually if I feel like closure has not been achieved, I will revisit the stage. So it's more like..taking my own dang time with each of these stages. It's the freedom I like. Or maybe it is a self-defeating behavior. I'm not sure yet. I'm still working on Operation imatter.

Anyhow, we were talking about stages...I'm not going to just give away the stages- I am a Cancer after all ;-) But what I can tell you is sometimes I am hit with a wave of independence; where I realize I am single. The next step, I know is to focus on myself. I start thinking about what do I want? What does this beautiful amazing creature of God want? More importantly, what does Papa want from me? So I journal. Almost daily. I am able to pinpoint what I love, what I want- what Papa wants from me. Our lines of communication are awesomely clear- it's one of the perks of being His favorite ;-)

So, what's keeping me? Well, you know how people always love to show off their Befores and Afters? Be it a renovation of the house/ weight loss/ beauty make-overs etc ... People forget to show the DURING. Seriously. The crux of the transformation. It's not the revelation or the result. It's the in-between. When you are struggling, when your will power is not at its best. When you want something and instead of listening to your gut and running the opposite way- you go with it anyway. When you've been climbing a steep mountain for months and you shift your focus for one second and down you go. You scrape and try to dig your nails as hard as you can into the dirt and you try to cling on to the weak blades of grass that come down with you , you keep sliding down and panic sets in because you don't want to go back to that place. When you are ashamed of yourself for giving in or not trying hard enough to not slide back downhill- The Failures. That, my friends, is the DURING. It's where I am and that's what I will focus upon.

Why? Let's be honest. It's very easy to look at pictures or read stories of the befores and afters and then to dreamily wish that you were in that After. Where you've gone through the grunt work and life is now just that peachy. And it's also very easy to remember your struggles and then talk about it- but I think a lot of the heartache and realities of the struggles are forgotten. You never truly capture the true essence of the During. So, yours truly volunteers to be your guinea pig and welcome you to join me in this journey. Now, I understand a lot of you might wonder why I am so confident- smug even- to KNOW that there is even an After in my future. Well, I'm confident there is because I am child of Christ and I know He has an awesome plan for me.

So here goes:
   October is a hard month for me, and all 2 of you reading this know that. So, I've definitely taken a few steps back. I'm not just talking about dating life either. I'm talking Journaling and Papa time as well- which I will be fixing tonight ;) In regards to the healing heart- Some days I am a mountain climbing expert and go through the days with ease..sliding across that smooth marble floor like Tom Cruise did in that stupid movie with his stupid shirt and tighty-whiteys. Other days I am like one of my video game characters that has repeatedly hit a brick wall (and keeps walking into it... for hours on end.) Strides that have been taken in healing my heart from generational curses or even the original sin...well I've got to go back a few chapters and re-read and re-learn it all. It's funny it takes so long to learn things- but it takes 2 seconds to unlearn those things- mainly because it's not engraved in my personality yet. (AHA! moment for me and Arya!)
    Today is a mix of shame and panic. I was doing well until I chose to step of the ledge and ended up sliding down- digging my nails into the mix of rubble and grass blades. I *thought* it'd be okay, and I even had a small voice telling me that I knew better- but I chose to experiment anyways. And so now I'm face down on the floor, dirty and looking like a mad woman because between panic, shame and anger I'm not sure which emotion has got the best of me and which one to deal with first. Why do I keep doing this to myself? Part of it is because my self-love self-worth has only begun to stick- a long way from it actually being engraved in my personality. In the past, I'd have hated myself for my failure- I would have paced the room back and forth yelling at myself for my choices. I'd even have called myself a few choice words- but a big stride has been made in sense that I don't hate myself for it and no sort of pacing or name calling followed. I'm at a point where I can say "okay, this is where I am. How do I get to where I want to be and what will it take?" And then go from there. I am okay with experimenting, with theories and hypothesis and dealing with different possible outcomes. What I am NOT okay with is feeling like I've taken a step away from Papa. What I am not okay with is trying to find someone else to blame for this. My choices have consequences and I am not at a point where I can say this is me. What's frustrating me right now is the fact that when I am going through the motions, I seem to lack the intelligence to listen to my heart...listen to Papa and STOP when I need to. (Or start... depending on the situation.)
    So every day I seem to discover more things that I need to work on. There are accomplishments as well- don't get me wrong. But I also know...that in order for me to be able to CLAIM that "That's Me" .. I'll have to be consistent in accomplishments. In order for me to say "that's my personality".. will take a long time and it's a long road ahead of me. But I got new shoes and I got Papa by my side. So hopefully Papa will take me: Golden Soul Fire Princess, turn me into a golden fireball and NITROBOOST my butt into awesomeness ;) I have faith ;)

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Operation: iMatter

So it's been a while...Life's been busy with its ups and downs. I cannot honestly say if I've welcomed it (or reacted/responded) gracefully to it but I do know that I've tried my best and kept Papa in focus.

I was struggling a lot for the past 2 months or so. Becoming unhappy with my situation and my surroundings- letting others dictate my mood and my hoop. Then I came across this saying:

Time has a wonderful way
of showing us what
really matters.

It was like a bomb exploded in my face. What really matters. I realized I had let myself go. Physically, emotionally, spiritually. And time...was/is showing it! While I was working on the spiritually part, I was not concentrating on the physical and emotional aspects of my life. I was letting it fly with the winds...letting other peoples emotions and issues sway it back and forth. Needless to say I was a wreck. (I should say am..because I'm still in the process of unstitching this web of shame.) 

During Rutgers, I had gone through a phase of drinking, dancing, partying, being as vain as vain can get... I was at an extreme. Everything was about me and the world revolved around me. I was the ONLY thing that mattered. I became part of a tumultuous relationship which rocked my world (and not in a good way.) My emotions were raw and ...immature since I had not put any work into 'my feelings and emotions and all that junk.' My emotions are still a bit unstable (I don't believe there is a single person on this earth that is emotionally stable- but that's a whole another blog in itself.) But I did put in a conscious effort to NOT be the psychotic train wreck that I was at one point. (Enter: Rigid Emotions/ Emotionless Me) Then as I got older, I realized I was put on this earth for a reason- and that reason was not to look in the mirror and admire the miracle of nature I called "Me" ...there was actually something bigger...a calling. Which would've been fine... except I swung into an extreme where I didn't care about what my outside looked like. I let myself go. And went I did. 

Time has a wonderful way...that time....
of showing us what 
really matters.

Few years later, I am excited to be spiritually awakened, however my emotions and my physique have suffered tremendously. I became this stern... being. I can't even say a "person" because a person would have emotions.. would have friends and feelings.. (I mean I do have friends, however I isolated myself a lot more at the time.) As the emotions built a brick wall to keep all the creepers out of my heart, I unconsciously built a physique that kept people away as well. Even today I have some people tell me they're afraid to approach me. I'm intimidating at times. But I'm trying to change that...I swear I am lol.

So it made me question: Am I changing myself and trying to be a fake version or am I becoming myself? Much thought has led me to conclude: I believe I am re-creating myself. Papa has shown me His blueprint called ME. And now it is my job to fill it in and bring it to life. I'm not trying to mold myself into something I'm not. I'm simply discovering myself. And I'm mostly enjoying it- I say mostly because me and uncertainty do NOT get along haha. And this journey is all about that!!

See balance is a great thing- if one knows how to achieve it. I hate it because I haven't the slightest clue as to  how, when or where I can find this thing called balance. If I even attempt to do one thing- the other falls off. If you notice it's been the theme of this blog since it started lol! Nin.Com.Poop. bah.

So I am trying to make an effort to find this balance. To feed myself spiritually, emotionally and physically. To take care of myself. I am now working towards becoming who I was meant to be. Papa has put love in my heart- not hate, not rigidity, not unkindness. Love. I am meant to show Papa's love. I am becoming more and more aware that my love is unique. It is the love that Papa has put in my heart to give the world-- just a small  fraction of a tiny glimpse of what He has for us. 

How am I going to accomplish this? By learning to love myself first. I have to give to myself (and learn to receive freely- no orphan spirits allowed here...tsk tsk!) the love I so freely give to others. And let me tell is not as easy as you'd think. But I'm at it. I have to learn to love myself and accept myself. I have to learn to matter to myself. has a wonderful way of showing us....
what really matters.

I Matter.

So instead of griping about how long this all is taking...I am going to enjoy how long this is taking. Because it is time I am investing in myself. I matter.

Why yes, I will take an extra hour to talk to Papa. I will enjoy His company and exchanging sweet nothings for longer than usual. I will enjoy Him telling me how much He treasures me and what plans He has for me. I won't blush and stop Him when He tells me how proud He is of me. I will let Him treat me like He wants to: Like I matter.

Why yes, I'll take an hour to get ready...because I will enjoy getting ready and take pride in myself. I will take a bit longer to stand in front of the mirror and admire the masterpiece that is ME. I will enjoy every curve ..heck even every roll. I will allow myself better nutrition and I will treat myself like...I matter.

Why yes, I will take some time and cry when I am on my period haha I will let myself feel sad...and happy and loved. I won't shy away from good emotions an embrace the bad ones too. I won't hide that I feel sad or insecure. I will let you know exactly "what's wrong." Because I matter.

This is a long process... but I'm finally gonna be ME. And I am enjoying it. Soaking it in as much as I can- being as meticulous as I wanna be! If you want to come with me in this journey...that's awesome! If you don't, that's awesome too! I ain't worried about it honey (lol) because I finally believe what Papa says....


Thursday, April 25, 2013

Short; all over the place; train of thought raw.

So I'm sitting here this morning, and listening to some worship music, and I realize how far along I've come. I was so used to living in the that I live in grace, I see how beautiful, kind and loving Papa can be. For so long I blamed the church, or simply didn't care to give it a thought. I didn't think in my leisure time, I'd be listening to worship music on the regular. I hope to raise my kids to think this is the norm. That Papa loves them...that He, indeed, is a forgiving, all gracious Father that accepts us for us. He has unconditional love- truly and unsurpassably unconditional love like no other. That they come to tears just thinking about how much grace He has for us. How they, too, can love freely and know that Papa God is there to protect them. Daily worship and family prayer won't be anything new to them. That's not to say it wasn't new to us, we went to our ridgid church every sunday, bible study classes/ cathecisim classes, we'd listen to Christmas music (not worship music, mind you) every November-January. However, we never were taught that Papa God is so amazing. That His Goodness is so powerful... that we can soak in it everyday. That we have a choice...that "all we have to say is 'Yes' ...a simple 'Yes'..and we take one step and he runs a hundred towards us." (Kate Wegenast)So this is all exciting and new to me...But the point being, when I have kids, this will never be a new concept to them. That in itself, will put them a million miles ahead of me. If just that is my legacy, I'll die a happy woman. :)